How to Find a Good Love

Love is really important for every human life, and it gives both happiness and grief. Almost all the people, especially the young generation always ask the same question, and that is “How to find a good love”. In order to find a good love, the following ideas can be suggested and used as guides, and that is related to what LOVES is or means to you:

(A). A good love is related to look. Look means trying to get as much as information that is relevant to whom you are falling in love with or fond of. Taking some time to search for more mysterious information that you think it is benefit for you, and then you can come to the conclusion whether he or she is your target or not.

(B). A good love is related to observe. It comes to the second step now, and that is what you have to learn from the one you expect to be your to-be-wife or husband. One thing that you can learn is that do not let the one you expect know that you are interested in him or her. If yes, the result will be different. Non-participant observation style can be employed to observe the one one you like, and by doing this, you will see the real image of that boy or girl.

(C). A good love is related to view. After getting all the information from both looking and observing, you have to identify the bad and good points of the one you expect, then analyze and come to conclusion. If the disadvantages are more than the advantages, you have to reconsider and make a new decision. Everything is lying on your hand in such situation whether you want to go ahead or quit. You have to have authentic view between pros and cons, or you will get away from what is called good love.  

(D). A good love is related to Evaluate. The term evaluate means to combination all the point including the information from looking, observing, viewing, and then conducting the synthesis and analysis to see the real consequences. Doing the evaluation will help you to see the clear points that you expect to get from the one you love, and it is only the indicator that can be utilized to judge someone.

(E). A good love is related to seek. All the above information is just only outside appearance, but seek refers to the inside appearance. This means that you try to be close to the one you love but do not let her/him know. Take your time and study his or her words of mind, and then interpret them. This is not an easy job, but you have to in order to avoid making any mistake in looking for a good love. Taking into example, we may know that the outside of the fruit is really good but we do not know exactly where the inside is the same or not. Iceberg theory should be employed in this situation. The ice that stays on the water is seen the top by us but not the bottom. To seek means to find something inside. 

                                                                      Sam Aun (Andy)